For aeons, I opined that clients often sought therapy when they were facing a crisis such as trauma, school related problems, job loss, marital discord, or problems in their families. My observation stemmed from the fact that people would often wait until the 11th hour, when life felt unbearable, overwhelming, and marked by heightened emotional...
More often than not, tell-tale signs of problematic internet behavior fit right in the palms of our children’s hands; glowing from screens and buzzing with notifications curated with algorithms to deliver a continuous dose of digital dopamine. From toddlers glued to tablets to preteens gaming for hours and teens scrolling endlessly for likes and validation,...
In 2003, during my shadowing experience under psychiatrists and other allied professionals in a psychiatric hospital in Nairobi, I witnessed firsthand the hidden struggles of teenagers battling “panic attacks” and “episodes”, which are commonly used by teenagers to describe severe stress that manifests through physical symptoms. Some of the teens referred for assessment were so...
According to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition (DSM-5), Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is defined as a pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behavior), a need for constant admiration, and a lack of empathy. Research shows that narcissism exists on a spectrum, meaning not everyone with narcissistic traits has the...
You may know someone or perhaps you are that person reading this article. The one who effortlessly steps in, taking on roles at home, work, or family gatherings. You’re always busy working, organizing, or coordinating activities, and your tireless rescuers efforts don’t go unnoticed. For aeons, compliments and gratitude flow your way over zealously, akin...
During the festive season, my nephew, a Gen Z, with his characteristic curiosity, revisited a conversation we had in December 2023. Back then, he had confidently approached me, asking for an assessment of a mental condition he believed he had. At the time, I gently declined, offering no clear explanation. But this year, he was...
Music has a unique ability to touch hearts and souls in ways we often cannot articulate. It soothes, uplifts our spirits, makes us laugh, and serves as a force that connects us. A catalyst for recalling past and present joyful and somber moments. Throughout history, music has mirrored culture, values, and beliefs. Our ancestors used...
Communication is essential in everyday life and is at the heart of our relationships. Psychologists identify four main communication styles; passive, assertive, aggressive, and passive-aggressive. Each style uniquely shapes our interactions and determines the quality of our relationships. Consider two examples. First, imagine a childhood friend whose communication style has always been passive. After reading a self-help...
This piece presents a vivid and alarming portrayal of the opioid crisis in the U.S., drawing a parallel to potential issues that could arise in Kenya. During my recent visit to the US, I was struck by the dark side of cities like San Francisco and Los Angeles, where drug use and homelessness are rampant....
According to the Oxford Dictionary, impatience is defined as the feeling of annoyance with someone or something, particularly when a wait is prolonged. Although impatience is a natural human emotion, frequent occurrences could signal a deeper issue. It’s essential to approach impatience with understanding and empathy. Why, you might ask? Conditions like ADHD, depression, adverse...
